Boys ‘Round Here

Oh boy. Here we go.

As any teen girl, I’ve had my fair share of crushes. Some short-lived, some lasting a full school year and one carrying throughout middle school. Speaking from personal experience, a girl with a crush can be delusional and go absolutely insane from the mere thought of being with “her guy”. But why?

From a psychological standpoint, hormones and cognitive dissonance play a huge role in the feeling we get involving crushes, especially as teenagers. Looking away from the cause of these feelings, however, why do we have to act so crazy? Why do we need to impress boys? Why can’t we just be ourselves?

This question truly came to me this year as I fell hard for a guy. Like, REALLY hard. Like, I still haven’t gotten over him completely. I found myself acting different around him and trying to constantly impress him, but I had to take a step back and reevaluate what was gong on; I was neglecting my friends and going absolutely insane because all I ever worried about was being with him.

After spring break, it became clear to me that forcing myself to not like him would be the best option. My friends were far more important than a silly little crush that would probably end up nowhere. I went into a depression after that, with other factors included. Although it was one of the worst times of this year, I am so thankful I got to experience it and grow from that. But, to this day, I still find it difficult to not get lost in the thought of being with him.

Girls, you don’t need a boyfriend. Boys won’t validate your life or benefit your reputation. If you come across someone who truly complements you and is your better half, then by all means, go for it. But don’t go searching for someone you only want for status. Focus on your school, friends, family and yourself. You have the rest of your life to find your soulmate.

Dear Soulmate

Hey, it’s me. What’s up? I’ve been thinking about you a lot recently, sometimes I wonder if you’ve done the same for me.

Will I live up to your expectations? Will we be able to agree on music choices, dinner choices, life choices? Will we be able to make each other happy for the rest of our lives?

When will I meet you? That’s been a pretty big concern for me too. How will we find each other? Do I already know you?

Will we have pets, children, our own home? Will we get married? Will my parents like you…and will your parents like me?

I hope fate knows what it’s doing, because for right now I’m totally lost. How do I know you’re even out there?

Love,
Your (wishful) Soulmate